There are so many good expressions here that I just can't tell you which of them I prefer. I think I do like Phil scratching his head better than shrugging his shoulders. I wouldn't want the shrug to be interpretted as weak or to look like he's 'shrugging it off'. Scratching his head conveys the message and is so typical of what men do when they're way off course with a woman. If I were to choose I think I would go with 20241.

I could mix and match them though. If you like one of Anita in one picture and a better one of Phil in another - I could blend the two different photos.